My Ever Increasing Patience...

My patience has grown by leaps and bounds since I arrived in Azerbaijan. Here's an example of that from last week.

Last Thursday I had an errand to run. I'm working with some youth who want to plant some trees at their school and I arranged through a fellow PCV to get 75 free trees. The only thing was that I needed to go two hours west to pick them up. So the Director of my organization volunteered to take me/go with me (he has a friend with a car) even though the project isn't affiliated with my organization (how amazing is he!). We left the office at 10:30am and travelled as planned to Ganja, two hours west. There we picked up the trees and headed back east. We stopped quickly before we left the city for doner, a cheap sandwich-like meal that is sold on the street in the larger cities, and then headed for home. We travelled great for a little while, until we came to a road block. So we followed the detour. Now, there are not many main roads here, so we went very far out of our way for this detour - at least 45 minutes. Then we came back down on the east side of the city where the detour began. Unfortunately at that point the road was still closed. So the driver and my Director were out talking to the road patrol, and we were eventually allowed onto the road. By this point there is also car trouble; the car I was riding in had to be jumped to start. So we thought we were ok - we had gotten on the road. But after we drove for a short bit we were diverted into a gas station parking lot, where we sat for at least a half hour while they cleared the road so the presidential motorcade could pass. This was why the road was closed. I would guess that at least 15 - 20 kilometers were closed at a time. When we left the gas station the car had to be jumped again, and nothing electrical was working (lights, wipers, etc.) so we stopped by a service station. This was another long wait - at least 45 minutes - while we waited for the correct person, while he checked out the car, while he searched for and found the part we needed, and then finally while he installed and tested it. From there, we were finally able to get back to my office, unload the trees, and be done for the day at about 6:30pm. Have I mentioned that it rained all afternoon? I also got a call that I had a package waiting for me at the post office and I didn't get back in time to pick it up. But these things were out of my control and I just sat in the backseat patiently waiting for the issues to be resolved. There was nothing I could do and being impatient wouldn't have made a difference, except for maybe making the time seem even longer. This is just one of the many changes I have noticed in myself since I began my time here...

So I Ate Pizza With Carrots On It – And It Wasn’t Even That Bad…

One of the social activities for women here in Azerbaijan is cooking – they love having guests and feeding them. And apparently this starts at a young age. They cook much more than I did as a teenager. I have a group of girls that comes over every couple of weeks and we cook together. We have made everything from mashed potatoes to salad and pizza (an American version and an Azeri version) to cake. And I love it! I’m exploring new food (I’m growing!) and giving these girls a place for social interaction (and I thought there was nothing to do in Northern Michigan). There’s no special focus on English, we just spend time together and speak whichever language they want – there’s one girl who knows a decent amount of English so she usually speaks it with me, while the others know very little English so we speak Azeri. We spend a couple hours preparing everything, we eat together, clean up, and then end the day with tea. And thrown in the midst of all that is an insane amount of picture taking. I love the fact that the more time I spend with these girls the less I think of them as Azeri and more as just teenage girls. Everyone has their thing, but it’s not related to their nationality – there’s the one who’s always in charge, the one sneaking a bite before it’s ready, the one trying to escape the work, the one taking pictures, and the one who goes along with everything…. Now if only I could get them to try the American food that I bake…

Peace Corps Volunteers = Cultural Exchange Agents

Being that I am 29, single, and living in Azerbaijan, a question that I am repeatedly asked is if I will marry an Azeri. While I’m not so close-minded as to rule out the entire Azerbaijani male population, the odds are quite low that this will happen. First, I haven’t become fluent in the language or met a man who is fluent in English (at least in my region) and I think that’s kind of important. Also, the division of family work is very different here. Women do pretty much everything related to housework, cooking, family rearing, etc. (even when they also work outside of the home). The parts that I have seen men participate in are house maintenance (plumbing, electrical, etc.) and farm work. So this means I have very entertaining cultural exchange conversations relating life in America to life in Azerbaijan. What, men cook in America? Yes, men cook in America and they also clean and do laundry and help with the kids. By saying that I would like to marry someone who will share those things with me has brought some Azeri men (co-workers in their early 20s) to laughter. But it’s true – I remember being a kid and my mom would mow the front yard and my dad would mow the backyard. My mom would cook some vegetables and my dad would cook the meat and that would be dinner. If my dad was in town and my mom needed something from the store, he’d stop and pick it up. If my mom was busy and there was something involving me or my brother, my dad did it. So while this is all true, there is also an ulterior motive behind these conversations – afterwards people are not quite as insistent about trying to set me up. (Herein lies some of the pros to being a married Volunteer, no set ups attempted and the locals can see these things in action.)

Happy Birthday To You...

In the past couple of weeks I’ve been to two different birthday parties. They were both for teenage girls (cousins, in fact) and were great fun. They were something that the girls pretty much organized themselves – everyone (five guests including me at each party, to the second one I brought another PCV that was visiting me for the weekend) arrived in the late afternoon, we had tea (of course), cake and fruit (and “pizza” and salad at one), and then we had a dance party. And then we were each home by 7pm. This wasn’t a family celebration but a celebration with their friends, and they had a lot of fun. So as far as traditional Azerbaijani birthday parties, I’m not sure what qualifies – I think it would be different with the rest of their family present. These parties also weren’t exactly the same as each other – there was essentially a meal at one as well as candles on the cake that the birthday girl blew them out. And both birthday girls made their own cakes. (Check out the picture below – there’s glitter and everything!) Their friends brought presents for them, things like figurines, jewelry, and a jewelry box. So I guess my point is while there is a little difference between parties in America and Azerbaijan (although it’s been awhile since I was at a teenage girl’s birthday party in America) they’re still teenage girls who just want to spend time with their friends.

A Familiar Environment In An Unfamiliar Place...

Sometimes as Peace Corps Volunteers we become so accustomed to our lives here that we don't really realize what we're missing until we experience it again. I had one of those experiences this past weekend. (Yes, I'm still in Azerbaijan.) Being a primarily Muslim country, there is not an abundance of churches to be able to attend here in Azerbaijan; in Baku there are only a handful, and even less that are in English. But this past weekend a friend had an apartment in Baku, so I and a few others came in and stayed with her and then went to Baku International Fellowship Sunday morning. It was like going home - familiar music, friendly faces and the commonality of the English language. There is a large population of expats living in the Baku area because of the oil industry (other reasons too, but that's the big one) and this church initially grew out of their desire for a religious environment for their kids and themselves. It has since grown and there are Azeris attending along with foreigners. It was truly one of the most diverse places I've been - locals as well as people from pretty much all of the continents - Asia, Africa, Europe, North America...Azerbaijan isn't the first place I'd think to hear Spanish, but that I did! This environment is something that I miss incredibly. Church has always been a second home to me and while I feel comforted by having a group of friends here that completely gets that, it's still different than not having the familiar environment of a church body. It was so nice to worship in this place that seems so secular and to realize that I'm in the country for the same reasons as many of the other people that I was worshipping with: to serve others. And while I've been here for over a year now and it was the first time I was able to attend, it definitely won't be the last.